The last letter I received from my friend, Ed Squibb |
A great man
has left us. Last week Edward R. Squibb
III peacefully departed his home and moved on, leaving friends and family
behind as he started a new journey certain to be chock-full of fresh
adventures.
The ‘Ed’ I
knew was a character. A breath of fresh
air. A man who walked into a room and
took center stage without ever acting a part.
Every single encounter I ever had with Ed Squibb left me smiling. Sometimes even laughing out loud. I’ve rarely encountered a wit as sharp or an
intellect so stimulating.
I met Mr.
Squibb years ago when he stopped by my parents’ real estate office to shoot the
breeze…or whatever it was he and my folks liked to shoot. I was intrigued by this man who was dressed
in shorts in what was – for all intents and purposes – the dead of winter. Naturally, I had to mention his attire and
ask what it was all about. I wouldn’t
have been ‘me’ if I’d sat there quietly listening to the conversation when
there was a burning question just waiting for a reasonable answer.
“You never
know when a game of tennis will present itself!” the gentleman said by way of
explanation.
I fell back
on my first line of defense.
“But it’s
winter. You can’t play tennis in the
snow!”
He jumped
up, orchestrated a perfect ‘serve’ and as the imaginary racket swung through
the move, he brought his other hand down (the one that had just tossed up the
imaginary tennis ball) and pointed it straight at me.
“Here’s a
novel idea. Indoor courts!”
I laughed
in chagrin. Oh, yeah… indoor courts.
Over the
course of our friendship I had the pleasure of watching Ed play tennis a time
or two – usually against opponents almost half his age. He played to win and rarely lost, and yet – he
was always gracious. A true sportsman,
was Mr. Squibb.
I also had
the honor of representing Ed in several business transactions. He was a stickler for detail and he knew his ‘stuff’
but he always granted me the respect of asking for my opinion. To my delight, he even took my advice a time
or two.
There are a
handful of people who have been instrumental in supporting my writing career
and Ed is up near the top of that list.
Shortly after I began writing “Observations from The F.A.R.M.” Ed paid
me a special visit – one that was longer than his usual mercurial pop-ins. He sauntered through the doorway and plopped
down in a chair, slapping an Irregular down on the desktop in front of me.
“Thank
you.”
That was
it. Just ‘thank you’. I had an inkling that he was being
complimentary. However, I didn’t dare
make an assumption – lest I make the proverbial ass out of my umption.
“‘Thank
you’…for what?”
“THAT.” he
said, “That is exactly what people need.
YOU are exactly what we need.
Don’t stop.” Ed jumped up. The man was rarely still and never stayed seated
for more than a couple of minutes before getting up and moving around the
room. I was immensely flattered by his
words and wanted to hear more.
“It
is? I am?”
“Yes.” He wound up and threw a perfect pitch and a fantasy
ball flew across the lobby and into the map room – where it no doubt struck out
the batter at plate. Then Ed reseated
himself and grabbed the newspaper, opening it to my column. “But this thing is a mess. I took the liberty of marking it up for you. Your content is great but your format is
horrendous.”
As I write
this I’m laughing once again, picturing that scene from years ago. There I was – all primed for a round of
accolades – and my friend was commencing to tear my writing to shreds! I never had to worry about getting a swelled
head with Ed. That man was a drink of
cool water on a hot day and HE was exactly what this fledgling writer
needed. Ed was what – no…Ed was WHO – a
lot of people needed. He wasn’t stingy
with himself. As he made the daily
rounds in his neighborhood and through the town, he brought sunshine and a
unique rapport into each personal interaction.
Sometimes I was just a spectator and I’d watch him as he chatted to
folks in the post office or the store.
When that man left the premises, those who remained were on an “Ed
High”…giddy, chuckling…they went back to their routines with uplifted
spirits. He had a rare gift. Of that, I have no doubt.
As I think
back on my friendship with Ed, certain images and scenes come to mind. The day he offered me a tour of his home
after discovering that I’d left some maps I promised to lend him between the
doors of his next-door-neighbor’s house instead of his. (He well knew any maps were worthless in my
hands!)
The morning
when, out of the blue, he handed me a check to donate to a community effort he
knew I was supporting.
The
afternoon he invited me to lunch and made me a delicious sandwich after I
delivered some papers which needed his signature.
The day we
realized – to our amazement – that Ed served on a ship in the Navy sixty years
earlier under one of our close family friends.
(We were able to reconnect the eighty-something Ed with the
ninety-something Lawrence and the two men became devoted pen-pals. Ed generously shared the content of each
letter with us and to our delight we had a deck-side seat to the re-blossoming of
a friendship between the two WWII veterans.)
I remember the morning I gave him a squeeze
after his beloved Amy passed away – and the day I hugged him when he smilingly
– almost shyly – told me about finding Ann.
In all the years I knew him those two occasions are the only times I
ever touched Mr. Squibb – but he touched me in intangible ways very time we
met.
Yes, Ed was
my cheerleader. He gave me compliments –
nothing over-the-top and always thoughtfully tempered by constructive criticism. And he did something few people do these
days: he wrote to me. He wrote
honest-to-goodness ‘fan’ letters about my little newspaper column and my novel
‘Grumble Bluff’. He wrote thank you notes
for silly things, making my simplest gestures seem like matters of great
import. He wrote suggestions in the
margins of my newspaper columns.
He even ‘wrote’
me my very own, honest-to-goodness ‘cheer’.
Always eager to engage in discussions
of diction, vocabulary, syntax and style, Ed took a liking to the pentameter of
all my ‘names’ put together. Once he
learned them, he said “You sound like a cheer!” and from that point forward –
every time I ran into him – he would do exactly that.
Ed would cheer.
As he would
throw his arms up to the left, then to the right, then double-time left-right-left,
he’d chant “KAren! LouISE! BESsey-ATwood-PEASE! Hooray!” And damn if he didn’t
make me laugh every time.
Ed read The Irregular every week (and the NYT every day.) |
I’m truly going
to miss that man. Sometimes months passed
between conversations or letters but I knew he was around. That gave me a sort of comfort. I’d pass him as he pedaled his bike to Anni’s
Market to get his morning newspaper…and I’d smile. I’d see him jauntily skip down the post
office steps dressed in his khaki shorts…and I’d smile. Even now, through my tears, I’m smiling.
There are
people who pass through our lives who seem to sprinkle stardust as they go
along. That was Ed Squibb. Those of us who were the beneficiaries of his
optimism, his wit and humor and his generous spirit have been forever
enriched. Ed has moved on but he left us
all with vibrant intangibles…memories filled with laughter and warmth.
Those will
surely sustain us until we meet again, and I look forward to that reunion.
Thank you,
my friend, for sharing your stardust with me.